happy together (1997). directed by wong kar wai.

i watched this movie years ago in the middle of the night, alone. it is one of those nights in which i can't sleep and the only way to pass time is to watch something that would put me to sleep. happy together (1997) ain't that kind of movie. 

i watched my own break up, in motion. painful shit, i tell you. once upon a time. 

 i've bought it for a long time knowing it was wong kar wai's work but i just couldn't find the right time to watch it. it was an absorbing film - while the protagonists are gay men (tony leung and leslie cheung) it is not so much about gay men per se, it is about two people trying to save a disintergrating relationship. they moved from hong kong to beunos aires looking for a reason to fix "them" - from the look of it, a new environment, or rather a change of something external is not exactly the stimulus for an internal change in a relationship. they drifted apart, leung met someone new who is far more stable than cheung. but they are still together, waiting for the final break and nobody wants to call the shot. 

a friend of mine called the end of a relationship as sweet sorrow. this is what it is. when there is no reason to stay, but you are still in it, anyway.